How to learn from difficult times
When we are going through difficult times and emotions usually we blame others for that.
If we just go through a situation in a “survival mode” most likely, we do just that, “survive”. We never heal from our emotional wounds, we attract the same situations over and over again, and our self-esteem goes all the way to the bottom.
What if we have a different approach?
When I am going through difficult situations in life, I use what I call the “Learning approach”. I believe that our problems and negative emotions are lessons. They are blessings in disguise. Once we find what life is trying to teach us, we work on that and learn our lesson, the result is a “NEW ME”. We grow and we become the best we can be.
Here are some simple steps to say but not to follow. It requires an effort like everything in life.
- Find a quiet place without interruptions
- Close your eyes and breathe deep a couple of times
- If you are a spiritual practitioner prepare yourself spiritually like if you were going to perform a ritual
- Think about your current situation or problem
- Pinpoint the most hurtful or negative feelings that you have in that moment
- Then imagine that you step outside of yourself. You will become an observer of your own situation
- Work on detachment. This means seeing your problems and emotions without feeling them. Stay there until you can detach from “feeling”. Until you can totally see the situation as an outsider
- Once you accomplish detachment, you say to yourself: “This situation is my teacher. It has a hidden lesson that I need to learn”. Repeat this several times. Reflect on the problems and emotions that you pinpointed until you find the reason why you are experiencing them. Until you find the lesson. This takes time, effort and lots of honesty. Being honest is a beautiful gift
- Once you discover the lesson, then it is time to act on your “discoveries”. The hardest part is done. Congratulations! The next part is to take action. Research about what you found. Look for books, audiobooks, workshops, videos, professional help, etc.
Our problems and negative emotions are blessings in disguise. If we have the right approach to them, we will learn so much about life and ourselves. Don’t waste the opportunity to learn, grow and become the best you can be. Instead of going into a surviving mode, take action. Follow the steps above and grow and glow.
*Paloma Cervantes teaches Awakening the Healer in YOU Program. If you have any questions or want to know more about the program please contact us
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The Curanderismo Tradition of Mexico is the Ancient way of bringing the body, mind, emotions, and soul back into a state of balance. Customarily an elder Curandera(o) teaches the tradition in oral form. Paloma Cervantes is an elder, instructor or “Maestra” of the Curanderismo Tradition and also a full-time Curandera. She was born and raised in Mexico into the tradition. She started working full time as a Curandera in 1986. Then 12 years later, in 1998, she moved to California where she kept her practice and started to teach Mexican Shamanism or Curanderismo and other spiritual modalities. Now not only she teachers in California but also in other states and countries.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Paloma is a Shaman who does not use any hallucinogenic plants, brews, ceremonial tobacco, recreational drugs, alcohol, cannabis, etc. Please do not use these before to or during her events. If you do so you will be asked to leave the event immediately and without refund.
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